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This is a common hurdle in our society for single individuals of any age. "How to make contact with a person that we like on a soft matter without being forward?" The truth of the matter is that we do have the cahnce to meet that special person any day; at the bus station, at the grocery store, at church, at a class, at the gym, at the coffee shop, at the library, etc.

1. Make Eye contact

There has to be a small game of eye contact. He looks at you. You look at him. You look away. You look again. He looks at you again. You smile. He smiles back. And so on...

And Men, you hold your eyes on her until she looks back.... and maybe, smiles. Then, approach her and introduce small talk. The simplest way is to say :" Hi! My name is (put your name here). What is yours?" And say something favorable about her. Something basic about her hair, something about the color that she is wearing, or the make up. Whatever you find nice and feminine about her appearance.


Later on, VERY IMPORTANT, say something complimenting about HER character. Not on a physical level, but on a mental level. Is she intelligent? Did you notice that she is kind? Did you notice that she has specific values? Do you like that? Well then, go on and tell it. The impact is worth the try.

2. Smile. It's the easiest way to have eye contact gently.

Not many people do this and this majorly affects the way we are perceived. I once saw on TV show on some kind of monkey in the Asian forests; two males were fighting to win a female and to stop the fight, one had to show his teeth to the other one. For us humans, smiling can have an emotional influence that could lead to dramatic effects on our lives.

Exercise: Smile to at least 5 strangers everyday, even if the person is not pretty to you. Be careful not to appear as if you were "simple of mind". Just a quick glance, a brief smile then looking them in the eye and then look away.

Try to get into the habit, you will be surprised by the influence that you will have on others. Smiling is accepting and soon enough, it will become a reflex that could get you far. I know one friend who got a raise because not only did management think he was a suitable candidate with the skills for the job but also because he seemed like someone likeable.

3. Introduce conversation. The easiest way to commence a conversation is to ask a question. Then, follow it with a short humorous joke about the situation. For example, if you are at the super market and you see that cute girl near the peas section, excuse yourself and ask her what she would recommend. After she has answered, follow it by a joke, or something you have seen on TV or something that happened to you about peas when you were younger. Laughing or make a person laugh is a helpful quality that you want to develop.

Another important thing; don't worry about the rejection; or it will paralyze you. If they reject you, say to yourself that there must be a good reason - perhaps they are already in a relationship or not ready to get involved yet, etc. Keep going to the next person. critical. Don't let one or two rejections prevent you from meeting that special person. If you don't take the lead in your love life, who will?

4. Now you can pass on to the next step: You give them your phone number or ask for theirs. Simply.

That is the lowest level invitation because it leaves the option to the other person to call you. Or not. That way, no one is getting hurt. You can meet bunches of people this way and be a "hot commodity". The more dates you have, the higher the chances are that you will feel better about yourself and you become more appealing to the eyes of the others.

Say something like " You seem like a fun person and I would like to meet you again for coffee. I don't have much time right now so I am leaving you my phone number. Call me next week and we can arrange to do coffee. It was nice meeting you"

You can invite that person early in the conversation and allow that person decide if they want to call you. No pressure on anyone. Imagine if you did that to two people per week, chances are that you will have a busy dating calendar. Then you'll make all of your unhappy married friends envious.

These are just the elementary instructions about to meeting people. Why not, be creative. Try a new way. Worst case, somebody will say "no". Best case, you will meet the person of your dreams!

Isn't it worth the effort?

Give it a shot!
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