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Does your best friend walk around with a sticker on their head to tell you they’re in a loving or in a non-loving mood? Do you walk around with a badge on your chest that says "Please love me, I need it NOW!"

So what does real love look like? How do you identify when you receive it?

It sounds so obvious but it’s not. Let’s verify that. Make a mental list of your responses to the following questions.

Who have you loved today? (List them in your mind – maybe your boss, a friend or family?)

How do YOU know that you loved them. How can you be definite it was love?
(Was it love in your attitude towards them?
Was it perhaps caring choices that you made towards them?
Was it a tender touch or a kind word that you communicated?
What did you do?)

You may have communicated love, but did they get it? Did they experience it as loving? This is the tough part, because we have little or no control over other people’s reactions to our love actions.

It is so convenient to presume that because we loved, they automatically experienced loved. You may even feel that they now owe it to love you back, but perhaps they didn’t even respect your loving. Have you ever felt that your loving was ignored, as though you were not there. That no-one notices how loving you are – especially if you are a long time lover!

If at the end of your day you can list who it was that you loved and how then you are fortunate. For most of us one day just blurs into the next, and we are hardly aware of when loving is happening or when it is not, simply because we live without feedback about how we are doing with our loving.

I want to challenge you to change this by taking some specific action!

For the next five nights, starting tonight, I want you to do three things to help you review your loving. You’ll be amazed how this feedback will take your loving to a new level.

Firstly, take a piece of paper and on it note all the people you tried to love today, leaving some space between them for comments.

Secondly, Next to each name write what you did to love them, whether it be an action, a prayer or your time.

Thirdly next to each one write how you think they received your loving, and what makes you think that – for example what they said, their body language, how they reacted.
Then pray for them that they will feel loved and blessed by your loving.

Do that for the next few nights and you’ll suddenly recognize love in places and ways you have never seen it before.

Remember that much of the significance of your love is lost, if your loved ones do not FEEL loved by your loving actions. If in doubt, why not ask them whether they experienced love or not by what you did, and try new ways to share your love with them.

Until next time this Pierre Basson from www.living4loving.com from saying
“Everyone is looking for real love with a name and a face to it, and it’s you.”
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